I think you need to find a new realtor...one with attention to detail needed to do such a complex and important transaction. There are so many details that can come back to bite you in a real estate transaction, I just don't think you can trust this person to do this at this point. If you can't trust them to keep an appointment (and then to have her priorities straight about which takes precedence), how can you trust her to make sure you have a clean title or that your survey is right? And excuse me, her nails are more important than your house?

In this case, I think you have to protect yourself. You'll make your friend mad, but perhaps she will learn a lesson about how to treat a client!

DJ