I e-mail for connection. I used to send a lot of "are you still there?" e-mails, and he would just write "I'm still here. See you Thursday" or whatever.

T is a little different in e-mails than in real life...but once he forwarded something to me, and it included a bunch of e-mail conversation between him and another therapist and I saw that weird-e-mail-T was the same with them as with me. I think sometimes people just write differently than they talk. T is definitely a better talker.