Hi. I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. How devastating & heart-breaking. Please remember to get help, not only for your daughter, but also for yourself. If you are the one who has to stay strong, then you will need some professional assistance to help with keeping you strong. As well as your daughter, you need some good counselling also - not just over the molestation, but also over the loss of your "partner". It's ok to grieve the loss of your relationship (not the man), while still helping your daughter get through this. My thoughts & good wishes are with you & your daughter to start healing now. Take care xo