your daughter is older than my grandson but we have told him about his big sister since he was born. I don't know how to answer your questions either but I feel your pain is still very fresh. I was like that for a long time when my granddaughter passed. she was 13 weeks old. Finally one day I think I just had to accept that God needed her in His bouquet. Children are on loan to us for whatever time He sees fit. For everything there is a reason. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.