Well, coming from a 20 year old daughter who wishes her mom accepted her illness, I say just educate yourself as much as you can. There is so much info posted on the Internet that you have access to. I wish my mom looked up information on it to at least try to understand what I go through. It sounds like you are trying to do that, which is awesome!

I also think that how involved you are depends on how your son is. Everyone is different, so it is definitely possible that you could be over-doing it. I say its probably best to become aware of how his illness affects him specifically, and react accordingly and in a way your son would appreciate as things happen. Also maybe you can go in with him to a session with his therapist, or even just need with his therapist alone, as long as he is okay with that. The therapist will most likely be able to better guide you on what you can do that will be best for your son. This wasn't a very good answer probably, sorry I am so vague, I tried .