I told SKR when I was having these type of fantasys about her and she told me that fantasys are ok everyone fantasizes at some point or another about the people in their lives. Every human being has the ability and does daydream whether or not they admit to it. Also said that most of th e time when she has found out that clients are fantisizing about her it is because something in their lives is making them feel uncomfortable and even if it seems like the fantasy has nothing to do with what the person is feeling in real life that problem IS somewhere in that fantasy. So fantasizing is not only a way for someone to bring themselves comfort but is also a calm and appropiate way to work out that problem that lead to their fantisizing anyway. She saw nothing wrong with my fantisizing and had no fears that my fantisizing about her was going to make me obsess about her.

Bottom line everyone fantisizes about the people in their lives (and those not in their lives). If fantasizing was not natural and ok we would not be DID for it is this ability that DID's used during abuse situations to mentally escape the abuse.