Thank you tryin2beme for your words of encouragement..... many many times I feel as if my man is carrying it all ........... and most time if not all the time he is in the caretaker mode, not the husband mode.... that is something that bothers me but I am afraid yet to bring that up.... he always feels like it is always his fault, and I can't stand that as I must have something to do with it... or I wouldn't feel like this?????? Talk about a confuddled mind. and its time for a nap here.... can't quite think straight.. but again thanks for your words they made me think and that is always a good thing...Linda