doggiedo,

This experience sounds like a major flashing light, warning you that your bf is not the one for you.

It is normal for couples to go through periods of time where we become a little short with each other, that's not unusual.

The warnings that I hear are you feeling obligated to talk with him, and you aren't attracted to him, he's kinda messy which gets on your nerves. Those are biggies! And they sure won't become less intense as time passes, they'll only become stronger.

I'd recommend sitting down with your bf and being honest. Tell him that you just don't feel that your relationship is working out. You don't feel emotionally connected to him. I know that it's a sad and scary thought to admit your lack of attraction, but it's really important.

Years ago, I was with a guy who was real nice. We got along well, we were attracted to one another, and talked about future even! Then, we tried camping together. That was the end ~ we both felt it ~ didn't talk all of the way home (3 hr drive) or kiss goodbye even. I think that camping tells you a lot about a person and whether or not you really could ever be committed to that person.

Best wishes to you!