I started to reply to this post last night, but fell asleep. T has told me she loves me several times and has not put any delimiters on the statement. When I was processing the fact that she loves me after the first time she told me, I asked her how she could love her clients considering we have such varied personalities and issues. We also "misbehave" and take things out on her at times. She said that she makes a conscious choice to love each and every one of us and to act out that love in each session. I was wary of this at first, thinking her love isn't "personal" or that there are no feelings involved. What she reminded me is that over time, "feelings" fade. Love is ultimately a choice and that choice is a commitment. That being said, in my relationship with her, she has proven to me she has deep feelings for me.

delicate, I think your T was trying to make the statement "safe" for himself and for you. I don't believe he doesn't love you. I think perhaps because your relationship is a male/female dyad, he felt more comfortable saying it that way. You could ask him what he meant in your next session.