Asperger's syndrome is not a mental illness.

The counselor was awful to go behind your friend's back. That is totally unacceptable for a counselor. I would be so angry if someone I spoke to confidently would yap about me to people.

Do you know who made the diagnosis? A school counselor is not allowed to make diagnoses, well any counselor for that matter. That diagnosis is bull unless it was properly made.

She managed to graduate uni, that is great! That is more than I did. She must be very high functioning.

Can you see how she has Asperger's clearly, or is this just something you've been told?

It all seems strange, you don't hold diagnoses from people, not adults anyway. If you go to a doctor and they refuse to tell you what you have, that is a very odd behavior...