I understand this because I have some issues in this area too. I've not only never asked my T if he loved me, I never even asked him if he liked me. There is some sort of burden or expectation associated with this that I haven't explored yet. So I think this whole area is dangerous ground for T's because all of our needs are so different. I can see where a good T would proceed cautiously in this area.

And I think it's wonderful that some posters have gotten into secure-enough relationships with their T's that this is discussed openly and real feelings can be expressed and shared. I'm sure that feelings deepen over time as in any relationship, and that there can be genuine caring on both sides. At least, I hope I can get to that place someday .....