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mandyfins said:
And so this acceptance that I feel perhaps is fulfilling a need I've had for so so long--- but then--- what does one do with this feeling??

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">You embrace the feeling. You thank your therapist after every session. Discuss with your therapist any uncomfy feelings.

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Is it appropriate to think about someone else so much-- when, like Quay said-- he probably doesn't think much about me until just before my next session. It seems kind of one sided which in itself doesn't seem healthy......

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> ((((((mandyfins))))))) I'm certain all good therapists think on their off time about their patients. Also, I think fantasizing can be useful and can be harmful. Too much of anything is not healthy. Try to put things in perspective, in balance. Recognize the importance of other things/people in life.

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Sometimes I really wonder if -- for certain people-- therapy hurts more than the broken life just left alone??? I don't know-- maybe it's just me and my vulnerability??

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> There are many types of therapies. It's good to try different types if possible. Timing is important . . . some people need more pushing than others. A good therapist knows when to change directions.