Sorry, mental illness was a poor choice of words. I did not mean to offend anyone.

I agree, it was awful for the counselor to go behind my friend's back like that. I use my school's counseling services as well, and it made me fear for a while they were hiding something from me as well. But because I knew little about Asperger's, I somehow thought that maybe this was the right thing. I mean, who'd want to distrust a professional?

You can see she has Aspergers. And it does affect her daily life. I know the counselor was wrong to tell us in private, especially since we are not family, just concerned friends, but do I tell her?