Thank you so much for your post, and I could well relate to some of the emotional outbursts I've had recently over nothing, but also some great
emotional pain over sensitivity to others, and their comments. I think it could be an esteem issue, as I focus on a specific, because although
I'd like to confront/clarify/and regroup sometimes with a friend or relative, usually I avoid because either I think I've been too sensitive,
or because I just do not have a behavioral pattern of the skills of confrontation. Boundaries I can do, but confrontation almost always
places the other party in defense or defiance, as most people don't want to look at their under the rock side or offenses of their own.. It's a fine line, really, of not being judgmental or overly thoughtful on a subject, person or conversation/comment, but to let it go sometimes and insight comes. On the other hand, I'm finding that if too many "unconfronted" issues or offenses pile up, it effects my confidence level,, which is usually high. I try to treat people fairly so things don't come back to hit me; but then I understand from some of these posts that mood changes and/or
depression can result if we do not resolve things as they happen. It is a skill I'm working at; if anyone has any expertise in this area, I'd love to
hear it......we work at DBT in T, atm, where objectivity in relationships is stressed; i think when i can see a person objectively and understand they are dealing with their own issues and defenses, I can better control my own reactions and take responsibility for myself.. It's about choosing battles and preferring peace, for me, atm......