YES! I have felt that way... my T worked often with me about it...and I do so much better on this aspect than I used to... though sometimes...you know..I fall behind.

I had to find "I" statements to give them...or at least to tell myself, so that I don't take the other ppl's ignorance personally.

"I don't follow your rules, I have my own."
"I don't feel comfortable with that."
"I won't be able to do that."
etc etc etc

Find some "I" statements for yourself, and stick to your guns. One of the good things about making a statement that expresses how you feel... no one can logically counter it. (You see, you aren't arguing with their point of view, putting anyone down or such..you are stating some truth about YOU and YOU are the one who knows it better than anyone else.)

I just don't explain to others anymore. I just make my statement. It's up to them to figure it out, if they want to. TC