What type of things do you see she needs help with?

Where I live there are a lot of services just for spectrum people, so I'm very lucky to have been diagnosed. I spent a lot of time in counseling many years ago (before diagnosis or any suspicion I had Asperger's) telling them this isn't what I need. I told them I needed someone to sit down with and structure my life. I was laughed at, because that didn't EXIST (it did! even for non aspies!), and they told me just if I get motivated all those things would just fix themselves... Sigh.

So when I was diagnosed I actually got access to a special psychologist for autism and Asperger's which was much different than a normal counselor and MUCH more helpful, and also to a care worker to come once a week and help me with things in my home. I also have and have used other help offered.

I don't know what is out there for your friend, but I hope it is something that is specific for her needs, or it could do more good than harm, speaking from experience. It wasn't good for me to get mainstream therapy telling me I was unwilling and I should work harder when in fact I was working so hard and so stressed out it made me sick. I believed them and felt totally incompetent and lazy, and instead of teaching me strategies, they taught me it's all my fault......

Does your friend have any new counseling or any help at all or similar? Or just on her own totally? What do you think will happen if she doesn't get any support? Does she see that she needs it?

Maybe she already know she has Asperger's. You never know. I don't tell people. A lot of people figure it out on their own, I did, some years before diagnosis.

If she seems to be in denial about problems, I'm not sure what you can do else than urge her to get help. Or you might just ask her (if you're brave enough), if she thinks she has Asperger's. If I was you, and asked, I would actually not say anything about the counselor, like ever... I would say I watched something on TV or a stupid lie like that, or maybe rather you have an Internet friend with it and you both seem a little alike. But remember, what makes a good lie, lies in the details (says Sheldon Cooper, LOL).