I know it is acceptable to talk about sexual stuff in therapy. But the things you listed there sound a bit like he is trying to get the gory details - that is the bit that worries me. And asking what you do during sex, to me, sounds way out of line. Like he is getting his kicks from listening to the answers.

I could understand it if say you were going there to recover from a sexual abuse background and you had to discuss things that happened in that context. But the way you described it sounds like, to me, he is bringing up sexual stuff where it really isn't relevant. Eg. When talking about self esteem he makes that GIANT LEAP to "oh she must have done something sexual that she feels guilty about". Where is the connection there? I have no idea. Its quite a leap.

I would keep an eye on this one if I were you.