Wow - thanks to everyone for your support and comments.

In thinking about it, other than the comments I made at our first meeting, I have never raised the issue of sex. In the context of our bad relationship, he asked how often we have sex and a string of related questions followed. He started with, "I hope this doesn't make you uncomfortable". In the context of my anxiety about telling my husband and my caretaking personality, he stated "let your husband to find someone elses breast to suck".

So the comments always come out of left field. After each question/comment, I get a little waive of nausea, take a deep breath and then convince myself this is good therapy. I answer his questions (where not rhetorical) and then later wonder if doing so promotes them.

I have some belief about your theory Bunny, that he is walking a fine line - the reason for delaying the next appointment. He did say he was going on holidays and that is why the next 3 weeks are booked (i.e., leaving after the three weeks). When I received the email the next morning, it put a dent in that theory. FYI - no the book was not free - the details were attached to the email. Also, I replied "very kind of you" and "I will reimburse you when I see you". He did not reply to that email.

Just some thoughts - thanks for letting me go on and on.

Big hugs...