I have a tendency to misinterpret what people are saying to me, especially my wife. This was a big problem when we first got together, and now that I have improved a bit in that area I see how much I didn't really trust her. And that was my issue. I guess my point is that perhaps you are misinterpreting what he is saying? Only you can know that.

That being said, everything else you have posted points to the fact that you do not want to stay in this relationship. You aren't particularly attracted to him. He doesn't really change his habits (hygiene). I assume you have talked to him about this? Also, I think I hear you saying that one reason you would stay together is because you would be lonely and without friends/support if you broke up with him. While I understand this feeling, it's doesn't change the fact that you seem to be done with this relationship.

It sounds to me like you do know what you want to do (break up) but are afraid to move forward with that. It is hard to do, but if you are done then you are done and would only be doing both of you a disservice by prolonging this. You even posted this earlier, that you feel like you are dragging out the inevitable.

And lastly, I certainly don't feel like anything you have said here is whining or complaining. Thanks for posting and I hope you will let us know how you are doing!