I agree with the last posters here - this therapist has said inappropriate comments and I think you should switch therapists. If I were you, I think a female therapist would be better. You said he's exactly like your husband and sorry you've suffered in this marriage. You're vulnerable ATM and its like you're jumping from one hot pot into another one. He should be dealing with helping you heal from this abuse....not questioning about your sex life. You're not there because of sexual problems. Usually women who've been abused, also have difficulty asserting themselves and the last thing you need is a male therapist blindsiding you. Run fast - he should be calming you not making you scratch your head.