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Jun 05, 2012, 01:07 PM
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Member Since: May 2010
Location: Some where between my inner mind and the solar system.
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Cottonball your fears are valid, he is playing games.
Do you have any safe houses where you are? You could try and get an advocate to help you navigate though his games. An advocate could show up for you and speak for you at court too(depending on the rules where you live)
I got got really lucky with this issue. The ex in my case just came after me and ignored our daughter. He didn't bother trying to use the courts because the first judge threw the book at him, he also never paid a cent and I didn't care either. As long as he left our daughter out of it that was fine. My ex was better at manipulating the cops than the courts but at those two first hearings where he had to see a psychiatrist, was ordered to pay, was ordered to get help, was ordered..... In his words I had them flimflammed and damed if he was ever going to deal with those bastards again. I had an advocate from the battered womans shelter and she had a ton of resources and ways to talk to court, and I didn't ever have to show up anywhere where he was. No documents ever listed our address(my daughters and mine). You are doing the right thing not playing his games--the court should know better than that. They should not be asking you to show up any where near him. You take care of yourself and your son. Be safe. 
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