I can really relate to your difficulty in making this decision, doggiedo. It almost sounds as though you want someone else to take care of the entire interaction for you, because you're afraid of how he'll react. Is that accurate?

Btw, I have no problem reading & responding to your posts. I was once living with a bf, who I wasn't real attracted to emotionally or physically. What kept me in the relationship? Fear of being alone. I know that sounds kind of pathetic, but it's true. After 6 months or so, I finally got the courage to end the relationship.

I was in a panic about how he'd take the news. I was his "1st", he was "in love" with me. I was sure that he'd cry or Q me relentlessly. I was wrong. I just came straight out to J, and said that I wasn't happy. I wasn't in love and wanted the relationship to end. J stiffly said okay, and moved out. The end. If only I'd known it was going to be that easy!! I had been stressing out about this relationship for almost the entire time that we were together. It wasn't fun or comfortable, but it needed to be done for my emotional health.

The point is: Come straight out & be honest. The End. Be solid with your wording that this is the end. There is no future for you two. You're sorry if this hurts, but the relationship is now over.