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I just thought of something I picked up from therapy. However I am not sure if I got this right to begin with. It sometimes takes a while when you are dealing with situations or thoughts or feelings or physical sensations to be able to work through them. What I mean by this is no one no matter how well they control their emotions or the way in which situations have an effect on themselves they also have a hard time working through things. It can take hours or minutes or even days after, to be able to handle the situation or react or just go with your emotions in the situation anyone finds themselves in.
However if someone is overwhelmed and doesn’t have the right tools, so to speak. It’s easy for the unwanted thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions to take over, these can easily at those moments and times in peoples life’s seem like reasonable solutions. Of course this should never be the case for anyone, to feel this way or react and take action when they find themselves feeling and thinking in such a way, but we are only human.
You can in time and with the right help learn to be able to notice when and what(triggers) has that unwanted effect on you and how to better go about those situation, feelings to change the outcome and the way in which you live your life. This is not easy. I am no way saying this works for everyone or all the time. The therapy and techniques have worked for myself in a few times and situations but never had a big enough impact to sort my life out or completely break some unwanted thinking patterns or feelings. This can sometimes cause more hurt and pain to have to work through just what it is that makes you react in such a strong and unwanted way.
However it is better to find and try and seek out the right help to support you and work with you. It will take time maybe even years. However this will be different person to person. It took me 6 years to finally be able to do something’s but at the same time I have new things to work through. The unwanted or even new unwanted thoughts will happen time and time again with different situation throughout everyone’s life. However to learn some techniques is always a good thing. Even if they seem like they don’t work or help at this present time you may be surprise just how they have indirectly had an impact on you.
When you’re ready you can learn how to overcome and ease your emotions and work through situations you thought you never be able to overcome or react any differently to, of course it’s a trial and error thing but nothing is ever an error in the sense of you are wrong or not worthy. It will just be an error as in what works for one person may not work for another person. Of course there will be a way or technique out there that can work for you, you will find or learn what that is in time. Sorry if I have gone on a bit and if this wasn’t helpful. I will be wishing you all the best.
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