sweetandsour,

I do agree that you need to either work out your feelings by talking about the issues with a professional, or you need to leave the relationship.

I can only imagine how hurt and angry I would be if I were in your shoes.

What concerns me about this post is your safety. I don't know much at all about the country that you're living in, so it makes it real tough for me to give you advice. I wish that I could help you work through your emotions somewhat, to help you into a healthy state of mind. From there, it's easier to make good decisions. I know that when I get real emotional, I'm certainly not thinking straight. I jump to conclusions too quickly and make very poor decisions.

In your country (or neighborhood), those moves could be very dangerous for you. It's very important to me that you and your baby are not hurt. I don't want any of you to suffer! Are there counseling services nearby to help you and/or your husband get through this pain?

Are there any women's groups in your area? Maybe that could help you work through your feelings freely, with those who can understand exactly what you're going through. I do encourage you to continue coming here, to Psych Central. I am always willing to lend an ear ~ and share my support.

Very best wishes to you!