Hi Barbsue,

As others have said.....taken at face value these comments are highly inappropriate!

What actually really, really worried me was when you said how you felt nauseaus after some of his questions and had to take a deep breath and tell yourself this was good therapy.

That sent alarm bells for me, in concern for you. I think you know deep down how it feels when he says things the way he does and it sounds like you are not comfortable with it but because you feel you 'need' him, you are trying to put it to the back of your mind.
I think the fact you have posted your question (I am glad you did) also shows you are becoming aware that something isn't right.

Even if he isn't being intensionally abusive or a predator, I think he is crossing boundaries as a professional in the way he talks to you and asks you questions. I don't mean that sex shouldn't be discussed but I certainly don't think a therapist should ask a client if he or she is 'horney'- that is so unprofessional and pretty crude. As are many of his comments in my opinion.

I know it's hard to believe but there are many good therapists out there and perhaps it may be an idea to make an appointment with one to talk about this current therapist. You don't have to name him but just discuss what has been said. You may not want to do this however but it is just an idea.

If I was in your position I would leave and make a complaint about his conduct as a therapist but I am guessing you do not want to do that, which is fine. It is more important that you are getting the right help.

I think in a way you have answered your own question but fear leaving this "T" and how you wil feel etc. Just know there are T out there who would be just as supportive, without the crude comments.

all the best