((((You are welcome aiv)))),

You are taking the right steps for yourself so far. You are realizing that you CANNOT HEAL YOUR MOTHER and that she is impeding YOUR ability to heal. Yeah, it is hard to make the decision to distance from her, but it is the right decision for YOU. We all have to get to a point where we are willing to make a decision and truely realize how all we can do IS HEAL OURSELVES and THAT IT OK TO DO THAT. That is good and important step for you.

Oh, you are definitely not alone here. You are heading in the right direction and you have a really good chance at healing and KNOW YOU DO DESERVE THE RIGHT TO HEAL.

And to be honest with you? If your mother sees YOU moving forward and healing, it just might help her to do the same. Sometimes we can allow others to sit on the pity pot way too long without realizing we are doing that.

(((Hugs))))

Open Eyes