Had another marriage counseling meeting today,I got in a few words finally,wife broke down in tears didn't mean for that to happen,feel really bad for doing that,I got upset as well ,decided to keep my mouth shut.I like are marriage counselor think things are starting to come out big time,noticed my wife is opening up alot was amazed,sure helps when U have a clue on what some of the problems are, sad at times but really helpful,I have decided to think before I act, seems to be working alot better, we have been getting along alot better since I started to control my actions an my commits. Hardest thing I have ever done but slowly we have been teaming back together on everything still alot bugs to work out but atleast they are mostly positive actions and feelings so far.I have now realized I haven't herd a word for years she has said listening and truly listening is really hard but I practicing daily I will get there I am sure of it.