Also, David Strong gave some good advice in the last thread that discussed men in generalities. He said something like: if you find yourself applying a generalization to a group, try switching the "group" to, say, black people. Then ask yourself how the question sounds.

Rhapsody, honey, I realize that you are very, very hurt by your husband's past addiction. I want to think you're asking questions like this to find hope, not as a way to build up barriers to keep men out.