I actually completely understand what Chopin's T is saying about the choice and commitment of love. She is not talking about it being tedious or weighing us down. She's talking about more of a promise and deep dedication to someone. I come from a deeply bonded and supportive family, not just immediate family, but extended family as well. That kind of love is not just about feeling. It is about a dedication to others. It is about following through and living the love we have for each other. We have chosen to not just "feel" our love, but out of that love to choose willingly and consciously to behave in ways that are demonstrative of our loving dedication and commitment to each other. That is not a chore or tedious. I would say it is an obligation, but why is that a bad thing? I am absolutely obligated to my husband and my children and my parents because I love them. I consider that an honor. I don't see that as "reducing" love, but rather, elevating it to a kind of sacred trust. Like you said, this is a matter of philosophical differences or viewpoints. We all look at things from different perspectives based on our own backgrounds.