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Jun 07, 2012, 08:02 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Wants2Fly ~ It's NOT co-dependency, regardless if you want her approval. She's your mother and you've loved her all your life.  Yes, I'm sure there were hard, bad times growing up and I'm sure you experienced a lot of hurt. I yearned for approval from my mother too, but I never got it. That NEVER meant that I didn't love her. Sometimes (I thought) that I hated her -- but I really knew better.
You LOVE your mother. You are doing what is in her best interests and you're doing the very best you can, regardless of how much she may protest. She'll shout some horrible things at you! But please KNOW that she doesn't mean them. She just doesn't realize what she's saying -- not really. She just MAD -- mad at her body, mad at the 'system,' mad at the hospital, and mad at the world.
So don't punish yourself. Know that you're doing the RIGHT thing!! You're being a GREAT daughter!!! God bless you and my prayers are with you and her too! Keep us posted, ok? Hugs, Lee
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