Thanks sunrise.

The DBT people seem fine with me doing group while working with Backup T. (or someone else for that matter). I don't cut or self-harm so while of course I would love to have someone who offered email support between sessions (and Backup T absolutely does not and won't give me his email address) maybe it's not absolutely crucial. He does return my calls promptly though and will schedule on short notice if I'm in crisis so maybe that's okay. But honestly I really feel like he's not able to offer the support I might possibly need if things do get really bad again. I'm afraid that he will be like my old T. who got overwhelmed when I became suicidal once and then he'll have to leave me and that's very traumatic.