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Originally Posted by CantExplain
Just something that came to me...
When someone suffers from hypothermia, they are cold and irritable. They might also be hungry and thirsty.
But you must not expose the patient to direct heat and you must not give them anything to eat or drink. That pulls warm blood away from the brain and could kill the patient.
Instead, the best way is to expose them to normal body heat. It takes a long time to warm them up that way but it is the safest course.
I think something very similar happens in therapy. The patient is desperate for love and affirmation, but the therapist seems cold and unresponsive. Mere listening politely doesn't seem anything like enough! But it works in time. And to do more might be very dangerous.
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I read somewhere that a good psychotherapist knows what is "wrong" with a patient within 2 or 3 sessions. At that point the T could tell them what their problems are and what they have to do to fix them in one session.
But .... you know what the client would do. Deny, deny, deny. I don't think we can see and accept truths about ourselves until we're ready. The pain would be too great, so we don't see these things until we're strong enough to accept them.
So CE I like your analogy. It has to be a gradual process and we need to go at our own pace.
And in the meantime, we're begging the T for food and drink and throwing fits when we don't get them.
