Thanks stopdog - I hadn't considered the possibility of taking a longer break and returning to current T (if he'll have me back) if it doesn't work out with another T.
Thebunnywithin - that was an interesting article - definitely some things there that I might focus on in the next session - also I am wondering whether this is about closeness for me and if so, then I guess it might not make sense to move T's, if is is closeness I am trying to avoid.
I have identified another T with a very different approach, maybe I should just have an initial session with him and maybe that will help me see things more clearly.
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