I don't have any advice for you, but I just had to comment because everything you wrote about how your feeling is exactly what I'm going through right now. And everything you wrote about how your wife acts about everything is exactly what my boyfriend acts like in regards to the situtations that led to my trust issues with him. I just wanted you to know you are not alone and there is someone here that knows EXACTLY what feelings you are going through. If I ever figure out how to deal with it...I'll be sure to pass it along. I wish you the best in this hard time.