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Old Jun 18, 2006, 12:50 AM
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hey. i'm wondering if maybe... maybe...

your ex asked you if you wanted to go to the concert because... he would have enjoyed your company at the concert and maybe the thought that you might give it a try?

(i just mean maybe he was trying to be nice rather than purposely hurtful... though i don't know your ex at all...)

er... what is up with the loan apps? i don't know how the US system works... are you being asked to act as guarantor (forry about spelling)?

can't your ex act as a guarantor?

or does she need two people to do that?

do you think that she won't pay it back and the collectors will collect the money from you?

er...

does she have other options if you don't sign the form?

sorry... i just don't know how the system works...

i mean...

yeah you are agrophobic and paranoid and depressed...

but your daughter is trying to go to college...
and maybe... maybe... your ex was trying to get you to do something that you might have enjoyed?

sometimes getting better... can be about taking small steps...

telling people how you feel...
'i feel scared about leaving the house so thanks for inviting me but i feel too scared to go to the concert'
'i feel scared that my daughter won't pay the loan and the debt collectors will come after me and i'm too scared to sign the forms'

and i guess...

you could decide to try and work through the fear...
(and other people could help if they knew that was what was going on)
or you could decide not to...