well, cat is out of the bag, I guess ...... H has found me here again and read my posts. sigh. I sort of feel like a safe place to process some things so I wasn't running around in emotional mind but could gain perspective first (before talking it over with him) got violated.
I can't blame him for being pissed about being named as an a-hole online - my feelings would be hurt too! But I wouldn't stick my finger in the bees nest in the first place and read his stuff if he posted on some forum like this, either!
So, I will keep posting on other people's threads, but am going to be much more careful about threads I start, what I post in them about who!