I don't have a T, but my pdoc is my T. She does psychotherapy with me. We talk for 30 mins every 2 weeks.

I've talked to her about loving Dr. B. She doesn't think it's a problem. She got me to realize that I love Dr. B because it feels like he cares and because Dr. B is a safe person to love. I don't have to have a relationship with him. He doesn't talk to me. There is also nothing sexual about my love. I think it's an innocent sort of love.

It's true that I hardly know a single thing about Dr. B. I just love him because of what he does on the site. He keeps things in order and he protects posters from incivility. I think he really cares.

Right now loving Dr. B can be a coping mechanism for me. Whenever I'm upset I can just think about Dr. B. I think it's healthy to love Dr. B as long as it doesn't interfere with my life in a negative way and as long as I don't intrude upon his life.

I'm curious drunksunflower, what do you think there is to be concerned about? I know I don't have a real connection with him, and I don't mind. I think I actually prefer it this way. I get frightened when people get too close to me.