Sky, I'm not disputing your words in any way. It's just that every experience I've had seeking help from a minister or the elders of a church, I've run into a brick wall.

Granted, the experiences I spoke of were quite some time ago. However, the last time was about 6 or 7 years ago. I was dumbfounded when I found out how little the minister knew about abuse in any form. According to him, there is nothing wrong with striking a child with a belt or letting him go without dinner. My concerns were for two of my grandchildren. I felt that they were being mentaly and physically abused and neglected and their mother was a pre-school teacher at this church's day school! All I got for my trouble in talking to this man was broken confidences called "blessings," total misunderstandings and absolutely no help at all.

Yes, I'm still bitter and angry with this man. He was our denomination's national director, for pete's sake! You'd think he would have been more "enlightened."

This church was/is a huge church but word still got around and unlike a Chrisitan family "should," people took sides. As a result, all of my own family splintered. Now my sons don't go to any church and neither do my husband and I. I've lost touch with my grandsons.


<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>