I am a lesbian and have a lesbian T. I have trust issues with both genders and had cr ap relationships with both parents. I have tended to have more male friends though. I've had gay men as my AA sponsors, so that has really helped me trust men more (although both call men "pigs" and include themselves).

My first T was female but straight and it felt like that kept creating a gap in really understanding me, but I really wanted to work through some of my problems with women, so my current T is also female. Since she's a better fit for me I've already yielded a healthier relationship with my mother.