For me, a daily meditation practice has been extremely helpful. I am learning that I am not my thoughts or feelings, but that I have thoughts and feelings and negative beliefs, and often they are distorted and inaccurate. Love the work of Byron Katie and Eckhart Tolle, very eye-opening. To get to a point of being a witness to your thoughts rather than becoming overly-attached is an amazing awareness to develop. Your statement of your perception of your T protecting herself from your ego for instance; is that really true, or is it your perception of the truth?