@SeaSalt 'course there is the possibility that you could have a ****** T! (well, or at least one that's not a good fit for you).

But yeah... how do you know for sure? I swear my ex-T was really good for me, but every one close to me says he wasn't really. Do i trust their opinions or my own? I think they blame him for the SA but it wasn't his fault! It's complicated.