I don't think my ex was trying to be hurtful but I don't think he takes my problems seriously. We don't even talk to each other but when he chooses to bring my other son for a visit. He doesn't even allow me a role in deciding when or how long I see my other son. He calls on a Friday night and asks if I want to see him and I can say yes or no. That's the decision I get to make. I can't fathom why he would think to invite me to a concert.

As for my daughter, there's a lot to that story that I'm not going to tell because people don't get it from my perspective. She is a risk that I will not chance. She went to summer school last year to make up credits so that she could graduate on time this year. She didn't apply herself and now she's once again taking summer classes to make up credits. There's a history there and I highly doubt that she'll apply herself at college.

I don't have the answers to how she can get loans without my help. I can't make that my problem either, even if everyone else thinks it should be.

Sorry if I'm being defensive. I don't know how else to explain things sometimes.