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Originally Posted by CantExplain
Over the years, T has trained me to say whatever comes into my head without censoring it. And I know that she knows that much of what I say about is really about someone else. We accept the reality of transference and just go where it leads.
Therapy becomes very powerful when you reach that level of trust.
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This really strikes a chord with me. For about the first 30 years of my life, I "filtered" every thought carefully before I spoke. I was so afraid of saying the wrong thing, somehow, or someone might get mad, etc. Needless to say this made me a very poor conversationalist, because by the time I had censored my thoughts into appropriate words, the conversation had moved on.....
It was very difficult for me to learn, as CE mentions, how to say whatever comes into my head without censoring. Once I was able to do that, I made a huge leap forward in my personal growth ------- I started to become who I really am.
So I agree with what CE says above.