My husband and I are going through as of now which may lead to separation. I can't understand why he would keep it a secret that he had been keeping in contact in his life ever since we have been dating and married with a woman whom he had a friendship and sexual relationship but she would not committ to him. He also knew how I felt about him staying in contact with her. It was until recently that I saw a text where they had been keeping in touch which led me to look at previous bills where I discovered that it has been constant.