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Facilitating (strenghening if you like) attachment. Facilitating internalisation of the fact that someone cares instead of wishing you harm. Seems to have worked out. You don't seem to worry as much as you used to about whether he hates you and wishes you dead. You seem to think that he isn't afraid of you and your attachment, he doesn't hate you and your attachment.

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I don't think I'll ever think that he wishes me dead again. He hugged me! Not just I hugged him, he hugged me back!

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People can be in pain quite a lot. Remembering... Is one thing. Acknowledging peoples pain is another. It is one thing to start your own thread (about you) to acknowledge others pain... It is another thing to reply to other peoples posts (about them) to acknowledge others pain.

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I didn't think of that...I suppose there is a big difference between starting my own threads to acknowledge others' pain and replying to their threads to acknowledge their pain.