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Old Jun 08, 2012, 08:47 PM
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thank you again, MKAC, for being so definite in your support and care for me. It really does touch my heart.

sky - I am working on the same things you write about. I think, with the help of T2, I came a long way toward learning more about my authentic self and how to BE authentic. I've grown and changed a lot and become more clear in my self-identity. I know myself, and accept myself, better. I do better with self-compassion and not taking criticism as condemnation .... or taking on that guilt/shame so much, but I do still struggle with it. I have learned a lot about boundaries, mine and others, and am more willing/able to enforce them. And even though I also have knowledge about how I should do that and how to communicate that, I too often fall into the defensive pattern still .... get reactive and then have to back out of that ....
T2 and I talked about compromise too .... but doing it in such a way that you don't compromise your identity, your authenticity, and start hiding yourself away, trying too hard to please/gain approval.
Yes, it is hard, sigh. Makes my head spin at times. But I always have been determined!
No, I don't want to be controlled, treated as a child; I know I deserve respect and fair treatment. H says he will try to be less domineering. I am willing to trust his word on that.
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Thanks for this!
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