Wow, this sounds complicated but it is probably more common than you realise. I have never had an opposite sex MH professional routinely deal with me (except a psychiatrist but he was well in his 60s lol) so I can't relate. If your therapist was that good to form a bond then it means she was good at her job and obviously she does look at as a vocation, because otherwise you wouldn't have formed a bond with her, if that makes sense. She does care about you, but that is as far as it goes.

I wouldn't stop therapy, but perhaps if you get a new therapist perhaps get a male one? That way your relationship will remain strictly professional and friendly/platonic, not sexual/romantic. I think what will help is distance. Once she is fully no longer in your life it will be easier to move on. Keeping in contact isn't a good idea, since nothing is going to happen.

I hope your feelings get easier over time. x