Missing a T and wanting a T is one thing. But I really dont see how helping others is the answer to this problem. I can and indeed do help others in a variety of ways, but it doesnt take away the pain i have when my T is away or when she is busy. And yes we cant have a T 24/7 but it doesnt make it any easier to know that when things are tough.

Helping others as a way to get better almost sounds religious to me. And in a way its like saying my own pain is irrelevant, should be set aside to help others. Doing good deeds does not take away personal distress. It may well deflect how you feel for a while but at the end of the day the pain is still there. The real answer is to help yourself and that normally means working with a T.