I love my T. He has been so patient as I spend sometimes months in this push/pull... I need connection/you are getting too close...thing that I do. I see it now and we have talked about it and I think I have pushed past it. He said he has seen the pattern for months but its not something that I couldn't change until I realized it. The downside to the ending of that pattern is that now I have to get down to talking about real stuff and that is scary... but good. Hope my mind doesn't come up with another subconscious evasive action manuveur...