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Originally Posted by farmergirl
She's right though. Good relationships can fluctuate for reasons that have nothing to do with the relationship itself. No one can be 100% consistent in how they act; that would really not be human. So what you need to figure out is why you feel fear (use a different word if you don't like that one, but my gut is it is fear) when your T seems different somehow. What are you afraid of? And are those fears really about her, or is that old stuff coming up?
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I know you're right Chris, and I'm sure it has something to do with my past. It is fear. In fact, most likely, it has to do with my mother and her frequent mood swings. That experience taught me to be hyper-sensitive to fluctuations because swings toward the negative meant bad consequences for me.
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Originally Posted by elliemay
Sometimes, as counter-intuitive as this may seem, vulnerability comes *before* trust and contributes to it.
I would just take the risk. You can handle what happens after, and might be very very pleasantly surprised....
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I know you're right also, ellie. I just need to hold my nose and jump. Hopefully, this time will be different!